“I Am A Mother, Not A Slave To Housework”

“Being a mother does not make me a slave to the home or housework.” This phrase has been viral during these days as a result of an interesting letter that a 32-year-old Australian woman wrote on her Facebook profile, under the title: “I am a mother, not a slave to housework.”

Constance Hall is a very active young woman in social networks who has her own blog, where she exhibits a very active lifestyle with her babies. She does not hesitate to show the stretch marks of her pregnancies or the importance of maintaining her social relationships, her interests, her passions …

A few weeks ago he published a letter that, more than an opinion, was raised almost as a plea to the woman who demands her space in society. And that you have the right to continue taking care of your personal growth while integrating the responsibilities of parenting.

Today in our space we invite you to reflect on it.

I am a mother, I am a woman: Constance Hall’s letter

Constance Hall is one of those women who does not hesitate to take her children almost anywhere. She carries them in her arms and spends hours on the beach, in meetings with other children and friends, or going shopping with them.

She does not want to give up anything and, therefore, has established priorities in her life: her children and herself.

Tired of many of her friends defining themselves as “housewives” rather than “mothers.” As well as that some fell into depressive states, he published these interesting lines that we invite you to read:

Letter from Constance Hall

“I write to the woman in the park, looking at her phone without paying too much attention to her children.

I salute you. Instead of being hooked on the screen of your devices, you should connect a little more to the world, to your children and not to those groups of mothers who only speak through social networks.

Because remember, you don’t have to care at all what that ‘little group of mothers’ thinks. Go out to play with your children.

The woman who has a ton of unwashed dishes in her kitchen and is still able to walk out the door with her kids and go for coffee with her friends.

I salute you. Being a good mother or wife or a good human being does not mean spending eternity cleaning your house. If you get too obsessed with it, your friends will start making their lives, but without you.

To the woman who waits for her doctor to prescribe antidepressants after childbirth. I salute you. Believe it or not, you will continue to fight your sadness when your children grow up. Do not confuse depression with not fighting, you are the queen of your life and you will be able to do everything.

You are in the best moment of your life …

Enjoy what you have in your arms.

Sometimes we confuse strength and weakness, but remember that you are much stronger than you think and that nothing happens if at any given moment you dare to ask for help. Worth it!

Keep in mind that many women are going through the same thing as you, they just don’t dare to talk about it. 

I am writing now to the woman who has not lost all her weight after giving birth. I salute you. Do not worry nothing happens. Because being a mother is a new job that requires your attention 24 hours a day, but for which you will not be paid.

In fact, it is a task that will never end. So feel free to eat that cake if you want. Your body after childbirth is not a public issue, so forget the comments they make about your body: nobody cares. “

The importance of setting priorities in our life

Each of us may or may not share the words of Constance Hall. You can always have the house clean and the dishes in their place, and then have all the time in the world for your children.

However, the ideas that he leaves us go far beyond all this.

• First of all, being a mother does not mean giving up our old life, our friends, dreams or work projects overnight. You don’t give up: you grow, because you advance as a person.
• On the other hand,  our day to day will not be the same, challenges, complications will appear and at some point we will despair. However, living, educating and being a mother implies being strong, flexible and fighting every day for what we love the most.
• It is necessary to establish priorities: remember that if you are not happy you will not be able to make yours happy.

So if you feel desperate, get out of the house with your kids, sunbathe, talk to other mothers. Surround yourself with other people who will remind you how wonderful life and raising our children is.